Online dating for born again christians

Today, eight out of ten of us choose to stick to ourselves instead of connect to a church.

And so, according to the church culture, once again, our singleness felt like a problem to be fixed.

This culture echoes a duplicity of voices, of ways to “handle” singleness, and it shines at us on small screens and big screens.

Over the holidays, I found myself watching the trailer for the upcoming flick “How to Be Single”, in which two minutes worth of movie clips communicates a message of singleness defined as an empty relational freedom to do whatever, with whomever, for however long – no strings attached.

Whether looking to the culture, to their church experiences, or to other sources for a hint of advice, those who hold a single status hear from multiple people, from multiple sources, that they are not full people until they find their “better half.” We’re told to wait, yet are not validated before we fit an expected model. But what if there is another voice to be heard – in what sometimes feels like a wilderness of singleness?

Scripture and early church history bear witness to a story that bucks both culture and religious culture.

As a pastor who happens to be single right now, I think I can speak for the 45% of the U. population who is single right now and say it’s not an easy place to be.

When we joined a small group, we created the odd number.

You met up with some of them when you gathered for worship – they arrived early or snuck in late or maybe they served communion or taught your kids or sung harmony.

You said hello and goodbye, and that night, you got the family ready for a week of work and school and everything in between.

Culture says being single is fun at first, but it winds up as a problem to be fixed.

And some of us turn from the culture out there to listen to the spoken and unspoken culture of the church.

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