Dating moving too quickly
In defense of the women dating widowers, it seems like those who email me understand that the widower’s friends and family may not be ready to see the widower with a new woman.
Often meeting the widower’s family and spending time with them is just as hard for them as it is for you.
Most men, especially men who have spent a long time married to someone they love, find that their lives lose a lot of the richness and purpose it held once their wife passes on.
Frankly, most widowers don’t know what to do with themselves when their wives are gone.
Deep inside of us women we wonder, 'is it that easy to move on when we go?
' And that is frightening and extremely sad for us.
I thought the commenter asked some good questions and raised some interesting points.
The question for those left behind is whether or not we’re going to move on with it.
So, to you ladies who are dating widowers with young children or adult children, especially if it has been less than a full year of seasons that would mark milestones in their mother's life, do not be surprised if you are not fully accepted into the family right away, especially by the women in your new boyfriend's life.
That being said, if you want to think of your dad’s (or brother, uncle, etc.) new woman as “the other woman” that’s fine.
However, this doesn’t justify the rude comments or remarks or other things that are purposely done to make the new woman feel uncomfortable or she doesn’t belong or is somehow responsible for your dad dating again. It’s interested that the widower’s or late wife’s family usually takes their grief and feelings of betrayal out on the new woman instead of the widower.