Dating a guy in a wheelchair
He wanted whatever he needed done performed immediately.
I also agree with the person above, I'm very active and I learned a wheelchair only goes so many places, there are limits.
Our family and friends are not our romantic partners.
They may once in a while have good advice on love and relationships. A person in a wheelchair deviates significantly from what our family envisaged for their pristine (abled) daughter (or son).
My take, as an older person, is that (if widowed) and dating again - I would probably choose to keep romantic company with a man who shares my level of physical fitness (realizing that levels of physical fitness can change quickly).
If I could not find that, then I would stay unfettered romantically and keep company with those I can walk with and be physically (such as my female friends).
You would scare off potential (abled) suitors, yelling: "For God's sake, don't go near her. You would feel that any abled or disabled partner would be lucky to date her. Your little kid (who is now approaching adulthood) is not disabled, yet (let's imagine) she is dating a disabled guy in a wheelchair.
They should not be concerned about your love life, but if they are, here is a good comeback if you do decide to go against the norm: If I had been in an accident and were in a wheelchair, I suppose you would find it inappropriate for me to find love? If you are a caring parent, you would never think that way about your own child.
If you had posed the question to me 30 years ago, I would have answered in the same manner.
I would choose a romantic partner who's mental and physical state was near mine to increase the odds of us aging together in similar fashion, and decreasing the odds of long term complexities in the health arena that are the reality of confinement to a wheelchair over the long term (which is a way bigger deal than this statement "it doesn't matter what your physical appearance is like".) That's a very sensible reason--one that my peers (although I am NOT several decades younger than you) had not expressed when I asked them. After a couple of dates he had a problem discerning me, his date, from a caregiver.
Or would the very thought of hitting on her make you feel embarrassed, not least if you were in the presence of your friends?
The most realistic answer to these questions is that even if the hottest girl at the party were the girl in the wheel chair, you would check out the second-hottest girl. But people have walked on fire to get a girl (or guy) they were attracted to.